I would like to share a poem with you today, a poem of friendships, of partners, of the people that come into our lives and affect us in such wonderful ways (even though when they leave it may not feel that way). It is about the people we meet along our journey of life and are there for a reason, a season or a lifetime. The individuals we meet and who share their lives with us, and us with them. From a connection with a stranger at a bus stop, a teacher, a travelling companion, a work colleague or a partner, each is there for a different purpose, and with each one you will either share a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Sometimes it takes us a while to realise why people leave our lives. We can be left hurt or mourning or even confused as to the reason for their departure, whether it be very sudden or through gradually losing touch. There are times that we ourselves have ended a relationship or friendship, which is never an enjoyable time, but this does not necessarily mean an end to the reason, the season or the lifetime of knowing this person.

A Reason, A Season, or A Lifetime…

When someone is in your life for a REASON
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed
Assist you through a difficulty
Provide you with guidance and support
Aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually
They may seem like they are a godsend, and they are
They are there for the reason you need them to be

Then without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end

Sometimes they die…
Sometimes they walk away…
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand…
What we must realise is that our need has been met…
Our desire fulfilled…
Their work is done, it is time to move on

Some people come into your life for a SEASON
Because your turn has come to share, grow or learn
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh
They may teach you something you have never done
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons
Things you must build upon to have a solid emotional foundation
Your job is to accept the lesson and love the person
Put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life
It is said that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant
Thank you for being a part of my life…
Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

I visualise this poem as a tree… a metaphorical tree. The leaves being those people in our lives for a reason, there for relatively short periods of time. These people enter our lives to help us with a certain need or assist us through a difficult moment in time. They are a positive influence, they may teach us a lesson, help guide us through a point in out life, build our strength and empower us in some way. These people may only be around for a day, a week, or even a month or two. Once this reason is fulfilled they will fall away like the leaves on a tree.

The branches of this proverbial ‘tree of friendship’ are those individuals that come into out lives for a season. These friendships or relationships help us shape who we are, they help us grow and develop. They may be someone we travel with, they could be a work colleague or even a boss. They can bring joy and laughter to our lives when we need it the most and they can bring us great peace and share experiences with us. These friendships can be the hardest to understand when they end, because we share such a great bond with these people over months and years of our lives and then they can disappear for reasons that we do not completely understand. These people have helped us grow, and hopefully we have helped them grow in return, but as branches on a tree, their path sometimes leads them away from us.

Lastly, there are the people that represent the trunk of the tree, the roots that keep us grounded, those that are there for a lifetime. These individuals know you for who you really are, they know you at your best and at your worst, and they are there with you regardless. Whether a partner, an ex-partner that is now a friend, a close family member, or a friend you have known for longer than you can remember. These individuals are there to tell you the hard truths, provide an emotional foundation, challenge your views, are brutally honest and teach you lifetime lessons. You will share your biggest mistakes, and your greatest achievements with these people, they will be there when you need them the most yet will never expect you to be anything other than yourself.

Hindsight is a beautiful thing, and we never know if someone is in our life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. The joy of life is not about knowing but to enjoy every moment for what is. The world is full of such amazing and inspiring people, and whether we know them for a short period of time or lifetime, realising the positive impact these people have on our lives can only help us grow into the people we aspire to be.